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Is He Attracted to Me or Just My Friend?

Lady Saoirse
By Lady Saoirse
July 06, 2023
Is He Attracted to Me or Just My Friend?
Is He Attracted to Me or Just My Friend?

In love life, meaning matters. If you find yourself involved with someone, and you ask, “ Is he attracted to me or just being nice?” finding the answer can be as easy as using our techniques for learning how to know if he’s in love. Read on to discover how to find out if someone is into you or just your friend. 

Being newly in love with somebody who may not be expressing exactly how they feel about you can be confusing. Don’t be dismayed, there are plenty of ways to find out if the compatibility means you will be lovers or good friends. You can watch for clues in their behaviour such as they tell their friends how great you are, if they can’t get enough time with you, or if they talk about your future together. Then again, if you are “just friends”, what does that mean? Explore how to find out if your relationship is your true love destiny or if you simply have a good friend.

What is the “Friendzone?”

What is the “Friendzone?”

The Friendzone is a place some people say they never want to be, but before you knock “The Friendzone”, let’s explore exactly what it is. It simply means somebody is your friend and has no romantic feelings for you, but that’s not necessarily a bad thing. An article on Huffington Post UK stated “The studies have shown a 50% increased odds of survival if you have a solid social network.” The article also pointed out that friends help with depression and other illnesses and make us overall happier..

True friends are also said to be rare, although friendly acquaintances are common. A true friend will pick up the phone if you call them in the earlyhours of the morning and will always be there for you in times of need,.. True friends comfort us when we are heartbroken, and they keep all of our deepest secrets. True friends know the best and worst sides of us, and forgive our worst traits, celebrating the best ones with us.

All of us have friends who watch out for us, caring about us, and considering the fact most of us are only romantically involved with one person at a time, having plenty of friends makes us better off. Not everyone who we are attracted to will become our lover, but they’ll love us as friends. If we are lucky, we will have a few close friends, who stick by us no matter what.espite the fact some people become upset that somebody they are attracted to is “just” their friend, having friends is not in any way a bad thing at all!

Psychology Today had an article that had even more facts about friendships. The article said there are about fifteen people in our lives who make up about sixty percent of our social interactions, and close to about thirty-five people total who we see a couple of times a year. The fifteen people who make up so much of our socializing are called our “sympathy circle”, and they are the ones we reach out to for help and support. Out of these top fifteen loved ones, approximately one or two of them are people we probably have, will, or do live with, and who we see almost daily if not at least weekly. 

More about friendships is published by Cigna insurance and quoted in an article published by Barna. In the study, sixty-two percent of people polled reported two to five friends, and it was reported most Americans make friends through jobs, other friends, or in their neighborhood. It was reported that “opposites don’t attract” and most people make friends who are like them. They may be alike because of religion, education level, social status, political views, life stage, or even cultural things.

We can look to Gen Z as inspiration for diversity in relationships, according to this study. Over eighty percent of them form friendships with people who are different from them, and almost two thirds of them like spending time with people who are different than they are.

How to Know if a Woman is in Love

How to Know if a Woman is in Love

While having friends as opposed to lovers is not necessarily a bad thing, if you want to know if someone is in love with you romantically, there are little cues you can look for. If they tell their friends how great you are, or can’t stay away from you for very long, they might be in love with you! Another clue they may be in love is that they plan a future together with you. 

He Talks About Me to His Friends

When you’re not around and this person is constantly telling their friends and family all about you, he or she might be falling in love with you. If they call and text when they are with other people, preferring to chat with you rather than the folks they are in the room with, that’s another possible sign of love. If they introduce you to multiple people, including family, all of whom say, “I have heard so much about you!” they may be falling in love with you.

She Can’t Stay Away

The more time a man or woman wants to spend with you, the greater the chance he or she is falling in love with you. If most of their free time is spent with you, and they call or text often when they are away, they may be falling for you. If their vacations, days off, and evenings after work are mostly filled with time spent with you, they may be falling madly in love with you. People love spending time with their favorite people, and if you are that favorite person, this could be romantic love instead of just friendship.

He Plans for the Future

If somebody plans a future with you beyond just getting together for fun on days off, this could be a sign of love.. If they want to move in together, and it’s not just a plain old roommates’ arrangement, most especially if they don’t want separate beds or bedrooms, your personmight be in love with you. If they talk about moving out of town, out of state, or out of the country with you and discuss things like having kids, these are also good signs for love.

Maybe He’s Not in Love

Maybe He’s Not in Love

Then again, just because somebody has been close with you does not mean they will be with you forever. Sometimes, we meet people, and get close, but grow apart. There are some signs to watch for that tell us if somebody is not in love with us, and some of those signs make it more obvious than other signs will. He or she might stop contacting you and might turn absolutely cold. They might make it clear they are not romantically in love with you by dating other people too.

Why Hasn’t He Called?

“Why does he wait for me to initiate contact?” If somebody is not making an effort to get in touch with you, and they make you reach out every single time, they might not be interested in you romantically. If a man or woman never calls, never stops by to see you, never texts, and never makes any effort whatsoever to get a hold of you, chances are they are not in love with you. People who are in love want to talk to you and will make efforts on a regular basis to do so.

He’s Being Cold to Me

Of course, it is always better for somebody to say, “I just want to be friends” but not everyone is good at expressing things like that, so they pull away, hoping you will “get the message.” In a situation like this, all you can do is flat out ask them why they went cold, and if they ignore you, you have their answer. They are not interested.

There is Someone Else

If you have fallen in love with a man or woman who you spend a lot of time with, and all of a sudden, they have dates or a partner, that’s a sure sign they consider you a friend and not somebody who they are dating. Of course, this will hurt, but there is nothing you can do about it. You may be able to remain friends and move on from wanting a romance with them, preserving your wonderful friendship anyways, so don’t worry about losing them completely.

‘Is He into Me’ Test

‘Is He into Me’ Test

The world’s greatest “Is he into me test” is perhaps the simplest one. You won’t need a page full of sophisticated questions to ask about love, and you won’t need an elaborate exercise to get him to say how he feels. If he doesn’t react favorably to little things like flirty touching, relying on telepathy between hearts to magically reveal all he thinks and feels about you won’t tell you anything. The best “Is he- or she- into me test” is to remember how you feel about them to begin with and to sit down and chat about relationships, most especially YOUR relationship.

Wanting to hide your feelings and make the other person come out and express their feelings first is one of the basic defense techniques we often use to try to protect ourselves from being hurt.If you love somebody, own up to it, and let them know, and then ask them to own up to how they feel about you. This is a tried-and-true way to find out if he or she is into you or just wants to be your friend.

I love Him But…

I love Him But

“I love him, but I’m not in love with him. I see him as a good friend, almost like family!” If you are the one who is not attracted to your friend who happens to be attracted to you, there is something you can do when they express their love for you. You can tell them you love them too, as a friend, and you cannot imagine life without them. Just be firm about the fact that romance is not going to happen, and if your friendship is truly a strong one, your friend will understand. Before you know it, they may be introducing you to their new boyfriend or girlfriend-who will also become a good friend of yours!

What Can I Do?

What Can I Do?

What can you do if you are romantically attracted to somebody who sees you as a friend? There are a few things you can do in order to maintain your friendship, but still keep your sanity. Believe it or not, yes it can be done, and it is easier than you would think.

Don’t Believe Myths

“Not everyone is meant to find love” is one of the ugliest myths some people fool themselves into believing when they are in love with somebody who is not also in love with them. It’s simply not true. For one thing, your friend does love you - as a friend. Secondly, just because somebody is attractive doesn’t mean they have to belong to everyone who finds them attractive. If this friend who you desire does not also desire you, that means they are not the one for you, and somebody else is out there, just waiting for your love. You will find them, and don’t let anybody tell you that you won’t.

Take No for an Answer

No means no, even if the person saying no is the person who you wish would say yes. Love means we care about the feelings of the person we love, and we want them to be happy, and yes that means we want them to be happy even more than we want them for ourselves. If you truly love this individual, you will want happiness for them, and accepting them telling you they would not be happy with you is one of the most loving things you can do for them. It won’t be easy, and it will hurt, but it’s worth it, and you can preserve your amazing friendship while you respect their wishes too.

Stop Being Too Available

Say you fell in love with somebody who considered you a best friend, and you spent pretty much all your time with them. Once you find out they are not attracted to you, you can step away, give yourself emotional space to heal, and then start seeing other people who will share romance with you rather than your friend who won’t. You can still be friends, but your main relationship needs to be with yourself, and being open to finding romantic love when you want it should be a higher priority than spending time with someone who won’t share that with you. You are worth it.

True Love or Friends?

When you fall in love, it can feel like nothing matters but the person who you are in love with. Finding out how they feel about you will let you know what course of action to take to move forward in your relationship. Sometimes, the person we fall for is just as crazy about us, and other times, they consider us a good friend, but they have no romantic feelings for us. Remember that a good friend is rare and can make our lives so much better, even if they don’t become our lover!

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