Chasing fairy tales can hold us back from pursuing the right things in life. Find out how our personal myths and fairy tales hold us back in life, how to let go of them, and how focusing on what’s realistic is the best way to live the life you dream about.
Do you know someone who tells themselves things that aren’t true? Do you see how doing this holds them back from being happy? Is this something you do? It’s never good to let these “fairy tales” control you. Join Mysticsense to find out all about these personal myths. Find out how they hurt us, some of those fairy tales, and how to let go of them. Our thoughts don’t create the world, but they decide how we view things, and that shapes our lives. Find out how to let go of ten of the most common myths and misconceptions about life, embracing a better mindset.
What are “Fairy Tales”?
When we tell ourselves that our lives are different from the way that they actually are, we live a lie, or a fairy tale. Some people call these personal myths and other people say that we are living outside of reality. Anything can be this type of fairy tale. If you know that your partner is cheating on you, but you won't admit it, you are living in a fairy tale of a meaningful relationship that doesn't exist. If you know that your best friend has a terrible drinking problem, but you won't admit it to yourself, that's a fairy tale.
Sometimes we lie to ourselves about the way things really are because we can't deal with reality. Other times, we are completely aware of the way things are but we lie to other people to maintain an image. Some people believe in making what they want to come about by pretending it's already happening. Living in a fairy tale instead of functioning in reality is usually always done because someone feels like that's easier than facing the truth. Is it okay to lie to yourself, even if it is just a little white lie? Find out here: Are White Lies Ok? | The Truth
How Being Unrealistic Hurts Us
Being unrealistic sets us up for disappointment. If you tell yourself that you can only marry somebody who is your best friend and soul mate, you may never find all that in one person and set yourself up for a heartbreak. If you tell yourself that it's impossible for you to find a better job when in fact you're miserable where you're working, you set yourself up for lost opportunities. Being unrealistic can make you expect things to be better than they are because you don't want to accept problems that are noticeable. If you're in a relationship with someone who verbally abuses you, pretending that they're just trying to help you improve will keep you in the abusive relationship.
Being unrealistic pushes us away from fair expectations. It also makes sure that once reality hits us full force, we are completely unprepared for it. It's difficult sometimes to know exactly what's realistic, but it's important to try. When the truth seems upsetting, don't lie to yourself about it. Find ways to try to fix problems instead of living in denial. If you are in doubt about whether you are being realistic or not, that might not be a bad thing. Find out why doubt can be good here: Why Having Doubts is Good Sometimes
Common Fairy Tales
What are some of the most common lies we tell ourselves? We tell ourselves that we can have anything that we want or live happily ever after. We tell ourselves that our flaws ruin us or that our exes destroyed our lives. Read on to learn about ten common fairy tales.
You Can Have All You Want
Believing that you can have anything you want makes you happy. It's important to balance this with reality though. Sometimes no matter how hard you work for something, your efforts fall short. Sometimes what you want is withheld by somebody else. Sometimes what you want is very poorly suited for you and after you start working for it you realize you don't even want it anymore. Even though it's important to try for things, it's also important to accept when things just aren't going to happen. We can't always have everything we want.
Perfection Exists
In life, we strive for perfection. We want the perfect job, the perfect relationships, and to be perfect. We might look around and see other people who seem like their life is perfect, and we want to be just like them. It's true that you might find the perfect ice cream flavor, the perfect shade of red lipstick, or the perfect wallpaper for your dining room. However, life in general is far from perfect. Don't expect perfection, because it doesn't exist. Expecting perfection can lead you to be chronically dissatisfied. Find out what to do about chronic dissatisfaction here: Learning to be Satisfied When You’re Never Happy
Living Happily Ever After
One very ugly fairy tale is the belief that when one event happens in our lives, we will always be happy forever and ever after it. Some people believe that when they find the perfect romance partner, they will always be happy. Other people believe when they get that perfect dream job, that they will be happy forever. The truth is, bad things happen even if we have something that we really want in our lives. You might find the love of your life, but financial woes might strain your relationship. Your dream job can turn into a nightmare. One event does not decide your happiness. So find ways to be happy even if you don't have everything that you want.
You’re Always Right
We all have strong opinions and beliefs about things, and some people think that their beliefs and opinions are always correct no matter what. Are you one of these people? If evidence that proves beyond a shadow of a doubt that you are wrong does not change your mind, congratulations you are a know it all who thinks you are always right. Guess what? Nobody is. Everybody is wrong sometimes. It's impossible to know everything, and our personal biases get in the way sometimes. Even if you think you're right, your opinion might not even count. Find out why here: Does Someone Else’s Opinion Count?
Flaws Ruin Us
Beyond being unrealistic and seeking perfection everywhere we go, we sometimes expect perfection from ourselves. If you think that a wrinkle or a stretch mark completely destroys your beauty, that's unrealistic. You're still beautiful. You just have a wrinkle or a stretch mark. Everybody has flaws. It would be impossible not to. Instead of looking for flaws, except that everything and everybody has some form of flaw and to be at peace with that.
It’s Too Late
Was there a dream you had when you were young but you didn't have time to pursue it? Well if you have time now, why not go for it? Do you think you're too old? You're probably not. As we get older,iIt can be more difficult to learn new things. It's not because we lose our capabilities as we get older. It's because as we get older, we have more responsibilities and less time to ourselves. We have become set in our ways, establishing lifelong habits, and some of those habits have to be unlearned and new habits learned so that we can do new things. However, don't think that you can't. Get up and try. It is never too late. Learn more confidence to try new things here: Learning Self-Confidence by Loving Your Body
My Ex Ruined My Life
Horrible things happen in relationships that break your heart and make you wonder if you can ever trust anyone enough to love again. Some people say that their ex ruined their finances, ruined their sex life, ruined their ability to trust, or just ruined their entire life after years of hurt. No they didn't. The relationship you had with them might be ruined, but your life isn't over. Now that you have them out of your life, even if there are some repercussions like you're paying expensive alimony or you have to give them the house and the divorce, they're gone. They can't ruin your life. Only you can. So don’t.
Differences Separate Us
Have you ever noticed that people tend to associate with people that are almost identical to them? They go places with people who wear the same type of clothes, have the same type of beliefs, the same political views, and might be exactly the same age. Diversity is something that a lot of people talk about, but don't always embrace. We sometimes segregate ourselves and think that we can't build a life with people who are different from us. The problem with this belief is that no two people are exactly alike, and no matter how similar you are, there are going to be some differences. So don't try too hard to find people who are identical to you to spend life with, because they're just not out there. Do you think you have to have a partner who is exactly your age? Find out why you might not here: Loving Somebody Who Isn’t Your Age
Change is Undesirable
One of the biggest misconceptions that we have about life is that change is a bad thing. This is because change can be scary. After things have been established the way that they are for a while, we get used to them, and we become comfortable. We know what to expect. Change takes that away. So, we fear change because we don't know if something bad or good is waiting on the other side of whatever transformation is about to take place. However, consider the fact that there was a time when things in your life were not exactly the way they are now. Things were different. Think of all the positive changes that have taken place in your life up till now. Then open yourself up to allow more positive change to happen.
Struggles Are for the Weak
Nobody wants to struggle but struggles happen to us all. Some people believe that anytime they are not struggling, it means that they're doing everything right. They believe that they can control their lives in such a way that they would never suffer or struggle if they do everything perfectly. Your employer could go out of business at any time and you could have no control over that. A terminal illness can strike our family at any time and you can't fix it. Heartbreak could happen and there won't be anything that you can do to control it. Bad things happen to good people all the time. Don't think that you can prevent it. When struggles make things fall to pieces, you can rebuild your life again. Read on to find out how here: A New Beginning- Rebuilding Your Life
Breaking Through Fairy Tales
It's much more comfortable to believe a beautiful lie than to face reality, but sometimes reality hits you in the face and there's nothing you can do about it. How can you break through your fairy tales and accept things for the way that they are? Accept reality first. Next, review your goals and make adjustments. Then, go for it. It's your life.
Accept Reality
Instead of lying to yourself, just tell yourself the truth. Sometimes the truth hurts so badly you're not going to want to. Do it anyway. You can't hold on to your fairy tales forever. If you don't accept things for the way that they are, life will force you to at some point. So, what are you waiting for? Do it yourself.
Review Goals
Ask yourself the purpose for having these fairy tales to begin with. Is lying to yourself about your narcissistic significant other happening because you're afraid of being single? Having a peaceful life on your own is better than being with someone who treats you terribly, isn't it? Your fairy tales might make you happy or make you feel like life is easier that way temporarily, but in the long run they will hold you back from success. Remember what your goals and life are and stick with them.
Make Adjustments
When you let go of your fairy tales or myths, adjustments will have to be made. When you have accepted that being with a narcissist is worse than being single, you will need to dump your narcissist. If you live with them you will need to move out or move them out. If you have plans to marry them, it's time to cancel the wedding. Changes when you accept things for the way that they actually are might seem painful or radical, but they're important. So make those changes.
Go For It!
Now that you have accepted life for the way it is, you have revisited your goals, and made whatever changes you need to make, it's time to be completely open to the full beauty of life and embrace reality to the fullest. One thing that you will find when you stop living in a fantasy world, is that the real world is so much better than you ever dreamed it could be. So get out there, and start living your life. Your real life!
The lies we tell ourselves can create a fairy tale world that makes us happy, but eventually, we will be terribly disappointed when we realize things aren't the way we want them to be. Some lies we tell ourselves are that perfection exists, we will live happily ever after if we have one thing, or that people who struggle are weak. To let go of your myths, accept things for the way that they are, revisit your goals, make necessary changes. Then get out there and live! Life is waiting for you!
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