There are people out there who speak their minds, and hand hard truths out like candy- and other people just can’t handle it sometimes. Find out what happens when you keep it real, and how to speak your mind and be understood, no matter who can’t handle it.
Some of the world’s most outspoken people are both respected and dreaded for one reason- they tell the whole truth. Some people call this “keeping it real”. Because a lot of people would rather be told pleasant lies than hurtful facts, you will be some people’s hero and other people will cringe at the sound of your voice when you are someone who keeps it real. So what should you do? Join Mysticsense to find out. Find out what keeping it real is and isn’t, and the pros and cons of it. Then, find out how to deliver the hard truths- the best way. Some people would rather hide from the facts than hear something unpleasant, so the world needs people who keep it real. Read on to find out how to be that person.
What is Keeping it Real?
When somebody says they're keeping it real, they just mean that they're being honest or genuine. Typically, people who say they keep it real speak their mind regardless of what other people have to say about it. A lot of people say they're keeping it real when they're being true to themselves and what they say and a lot of times when people say they keep it real, they don't care how people feel about it.
People who keep it real can be seen as outspoken or even difficult to deal with. They will typically say things that other people would like to say but don't have the courage to. There are some people who say they're keeping it real, but they're not actually being honest or genuine. They're just being nasty. What is the difference between saying whatever you think and really speaking your mind? Read on to find out what keeping it real actually is and what it isn't.
What it Is
Keeping it real means telling the truth. Sometimes it means speaking truths nobody else wants to because they are unpleasant. When you keep it real, you understand that it is more important for everyone to be informed than to be comfortable with lies. People keep it real because that is a natural part of their personality. People who are painfully shy and don't want to speak up. might not be dishonest, but you wouldn't hear them say they keep it real. A lot of people who keep it real take up for those painfully shy people, or will give suggestions that help make things better. One Zodiac sign that typically likes to keep it real as Libra, and you can read about them here: Libra Traits | Star Sign in the Spotlight
What it Isn’t
Some people think they are keeping it real when they blurt out every harsh opinion they have, with zero filter. Verbally attacking people because you want to is not keeping it real. That’s showing an inability to control what you say to people. To be fair, people will push you to take up for yourself sometimes or blurt things out that are harsh. Some people believe it is on the person who was pushing if somebody reacts by saying something that upsets them. Other people say that it is never justified to say things that are just flat out mean.
Should You Keep It Real?
Based on the definition of keeping it real, it sounds like keeping it real is the best policy, doesn't it? There are pros and cons of being someone who keeps it real though. The pros of keeping it real are people need to know things, and you feel better for doing that. You're also true to yourself. The only drawback of keeping it real is some people don't like it, and sometimes that won't be good for you.
Pros of Being Real
Some people are built to keep it real and they can't help but do it. People who keep it real deliver truths that people need to know. They also show how they really are and they're true to themselves. But this makes them feel better than bottling things up inside or acting fake.
People Need to Know
Part of keeping it real is being truthful. The truth is important so that people can understand the way that things really are. Being a truthful person gives you a reputation of being honorable. People will respect you and they will look to you for guidance and help. If they need someone to lean on, they know that they can talk to you and you always be honest with them because you keep it real. Are little white lies ever okay? Find out here: Are White Lies Ok? | The Truth
You’re True to Yourself
When you keep it real, you are true to yourself. You don't pretend to be someone you're not, and you don't hold back the facts. You don't dull your shine to suit anybody and you don't conform to fit in anywhere. You speak your mind when you feel that it's important and you won't let anyone keep you from doing it. Refusing to compromise who you are, what you know is right, and how you feel is the easiest way to keep it real.
You Feel Better
When you keep it real, you feel better. You walk with confidence because you won't compromise who you are. You also won't hold back the truth or how you feel about things. You never have to worry about the stress of bottling things up inside or pretending. Nothing feels better than being true to yourself, being true to what you believe, and refusing to let anyone silence you. People who keep it real know how to complain the right way and get good results. Read on to learn how: How to Make a Complaint That Gets Results
Cons of Being Real
There is only one drawback to keeping it real. Some people cannot handle it and they don't like it, and then they won't like you. That could cause problems for you.
People Don’t Like It
People who keep it real will reveal ugly truths that other people try to hide. They aren't afraid to look people in the eye, even people who think they are superior to them. They don't apologize for the way that they are, they don't apologize for the way that they feel, and they don't apologize for telling the truth. A lot of people feel very threatened by this type of personal strength and they will go out of their way to make your life difficult if they can. When you intimidate people by doing the right thing, they might hate you and try to make you fail. That is a definite drawback to keeping it real.
Delivering the Hard Truths
You might decide that it doesn't matter if people don't like it if you keep it real. You are not going to silence yourself and you're not going to dull yourself down because people are afraid. So, are there easy ways to keep it real so that you can deliver the facts and not deal with the consequences of what frightened people would want to throw at you? Absolutely. You can make sure that you talk to the right people because not everyone cares. You can be tactful and diplomatic, but it's important to be direct and not hesitate. Pick the right time to say things to the right people and know when to stop or even be quiet. If people really don't want the truth, maybe they don't deserve it.
Tell The Right People
If you know people aren't going to listen to what you have to say, why waste your breath? Even if the facts would help them, if they reject them, your energy is best directed elsewhere. There are going to be times when you have to keep it real with people who are not open to listening. You might be able to have other people there to be supportive. If not, just know that you did your best and the truth had to be told.
Then there are people who just don't like you being genuine about your personality. They're definitely not going to be friends. What if you have fallen for someone who thinks that you are too much? Then they can go find less. Find out how to have the strength you need when people find you overwhelming here: Am I Too Much?
Be Tactful
How you say things is just as important as what you have to say. When people ask for your honest feedback, you might have to sugarcoat it, even if that doesn't come naturally to you. Is it more important to say things without a filter or get your point across? There is always a diplomatic way to say even the most difficult things, and you might have to take a step back and think about how to say it. It's not being fake if you alter your approach. It's making sure that people are receptive to what you have to say so that they will listen when you keep it real.
Be Direct
Even though it's important to be gentle about how you deliver some hard truths, it is important to relay all of the information, so don't hide anything. The more difficult the information, the more important that you give all of it. It might be more comfortable for you and everyone else if you only give the facts that are easy to hear. That's not keeping it real.
Timing Matters
When you say something is important. If you know someone is grumpy before they have their coffee, wait until they've had their coffee to drop a truth bomb on them. If you know someone just went through an ugly breakup, give them a little bit of time to decompress before you ask them out and tell them that you've always been in love with them. If you know your best friend is upset with you and needs some space, give them a little space before you tell them something that you need to. When you say something makes a big difference. Speaking of, find out how you really make a difference here: The Fine Art of Making a Difference
Know When to Stop
The ugly truth about keeping it real is sometimes it's not going to work out. Sometimes people are going to be overwhelmed by the truth. Sometimes people are going to be overwhelmed by your confidence and they're going to go out of their way to go against you. Sometimes people will be so mad at you for telling the truth they will never forgive you. There will come a time when keeping it real doesn't benefit you. Know when to keep quiet, keep things to yourself, and stay away from people.
What Happens When You Keep It Real?
So, what really does happen when you keep it real? You are your true self when you keep it real and people know that you are going to tell the truth. When you keep it real, people get to know the real you, and that attracts the right people into your life. That also attracts the right opportunities into your life. Each of us is a unique individual. When you keep it real, you put yourself in all the right places- the places that are right for YOU. When you keep it real, you live your truth, you tell the truth, and people will take notice of that. It can also help you learn to be your true self. Learn about manifesting your true self here: Your Holy Guardian Angel: The Higher Self
A Last Word
Keeping it real becomes a way of life if you let it- but you don’t have to. Plenty of people don’t like it if you’re truthful about things- and sometimes, they are the ones benefitting from the truth. So, if they are going to be nasty about it, you are not required to point things out to them. Some people who keep it real can’t stand the thought of withholding the facts. They believe it would make them dishonest people and they would not be able to live with themselves. If nothing dictates that you MUST disclose what people don’t want to hear, you might decide not to.
It’s a decision you have to make for yourself. Is it better to keep quiet, and let people find things out on their own, thus saving you the animosity thrown at you when they attack because you stated the facts? Or do you tolerate any backlash you get, no matter how tactfully you are delivering hard truths, because you feel it is imperative you tell them what is going on? Just be aware that you could be penalized either way. If people find out you knew something and do not tell them, they may accuse you of being untrustworthy. If you state the facts, you may be accused of causing drama. You may also have another consequence. Some people look up to you, appreciate you, and trust you more than people who don’t keep it real!
Keeping it real means being true to yourself and calling it like you see it. It means telling the truth to people who don't want to hear it and not being afraid of the consequences. It means that people understand who you really are and it attracts all the right people and right things that belong in your life. Not everybody likes it when you keep it real and they may try to go against you. If you're tactful and you think of timing when you keep it real, that makes it easier for people to hear hard truths. Nobody can speak your truth quite like you can- so keep it real!
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