Everybody talks about the positive traits of Cancers, but they aren’t all hugs and caring. Find out about the negative personality traits of Cancer and how to deal with them.
Billed as the most nurturing sign of the Zodiac, Cancers are known as loyal friends and family members who just want to share love throughout their lives. They are unbelievably loyal, determined, and hardworking, but they are not all hugs, success, and love. Even these fabulous people have a dark side and that’s what we are here to warn you about today. Join Mysticsense to learn the negative traits of Cancers. Learn what Cancers are, and their best traits. Then learn their worst traits and how to deal with those. Cancers might act like they are perfect, but we know better. Read on to find out what dark characteristics of Cancers to beware of.
What’s a Cancer?
Between the dates of June 21st and July 22nd, the universe gives us some of the most nurturing people who are ever born. They are in the Cancer Zodiac Sign. These sensitive, nurturing people are the 4th sign of the Zodiac. Some people like to point out that Cancer aligns with the glorious Summer Solstice. Other people think of Cancers as the scorching sun of the desert that will burn you alive. They are very in touch with their emotions and are very protective and loyal to the people who they love. They can be very moody and are extremely private to the point that they keep business to themselves just for the sake of saying they didn't tell anybody.
Cancer is a Cardinal Sign. They won’t necessarily admit to this. They like to think of themselves as the supportive friends who walk behind the ones they love, providing the wind beneath their wings so they can soar to new heights. They do that- but the reason they do it so well is simply because they are Cardinal Signs. Cardinal Signs are leaders, initiators, and people who are goal oriented. They have the ability to take the initiative, and see things through. Read more about Cancers here: Cancer Traits | Star Sign in The Spotlight
Cancer’s Five Best Traits
The truth is, this article is supposed to be about the negative traits of Cancer, but it's not fair to share someone's negative traits without talking about their positive traits first. Besides that, we all have Cancers in our lives who we couldn't do without and the last thing we want to do is upset them. They don't deserve that anyway. They are some of the most emotionally present people in any relationship you will ever have. They prioritize their family above all else, are hardworking, determined, and emotionally supportive individuals.
Present
Nobody will be there for you like a Cancer. They will drop whatever they are doing, and instantly run to your side the second they think you need them. Cancers seem to build their lives around the people who they love. If you look at their date book, it's filled up with birthday parties, taking people to the airport or the doctor, and meeting people for dinner, brunch, or lunch. Cancers are one of the signs that understand that the people who they love make their world go round. They also let you know that they are available whenever you need them.
Prioritizing Family
The Zodiac Sign of Cancer makes these people very family oriented. I'm not just talking about their blood relatives. I'm talking about the family who they choose, friends. Cancers just seem to be built to be the wonderful family members who are at every gathering, and probably facilitate a lot of the gatherings. They're always taking people into their tribe, and making sure everybody knows that they're wanted and welcome. It's not unusual for Cancers to book a lot of trips year round to visit family members who are in different cities, different states, or even different countries. They will even initiate healing within their own families. Read about psychic healing for families here: Psychic Protection for Family Problems
Hard Working
Cancers are very serious about whatever they're working on. They can be very frugal with their earnings but it seems like everything they touch turns to gold. Like Taurases, Cancers love the comforts of home, and they know money buys that. They also know money pays for things for their friends and family, and they want to make sure that everyone is taken care of, not just themselves. They will apply themselves energetically to whatever they're working on, even if it's a hobby as opposed to just a career. They may find themselves in leadership positions simply because of their positions as Cardinal Signs. If they're not in leadership positions, they will be the top people to recommend improvements.
Determined
Maybe it's the fact that they're so hard working, but you will be hard pressed to find somebody with any more powerful sense of determination than a Cancer. When they set their minds to something, they're going to do their best to accomplish it. The only thing that will sidetrack them is if they don't have the ability to do it, and that's pretty rare. This is extremely helpful considering the fact that Cancers are highly emotional people and prone to mood swings. Their determination can carry them through an emotional meltdown in a way that few Signs can match. Even Cancers can become emotionally exhausted though, but there is hope for that. Read more here:Help for Emotional Fatigue in Relationships
Emotionally Supportive
Maybe it's because Cancers are emotional people, but if they care about you, they will do everything they can to be emotionally supportive. They are excellent listeners and suggest great solutions. They will validate your feelings because they know the time will come when they will need you to validate theirs. It's almost like Cancers were born to expertly handle emotions. They will laugh with you, cry with you, and get mad with you when you've been hurt. Just make sure to reciprocate this because the last thing you want to do is lose an emotionally supportive Cancer.
Cancer’s Ten Worst Traits
Before you decide that the first Cancer you meet is your soul mate, there are some warnings that you should be aware of. These emotional people have terrible mood swings and they remember everything you ever did or said wrong. They can be downright dishonest and extremely manipulative. Read on to find out the ten worst traits of your beloved Cancerian.
Mood Swings
One minute, your Cancer is in a great mood. The next minute, everything will be wrong according to them. These things can happen for big reasons, which is justifiable. Sometimes these moods seem to swing for absolutely no reason whatsoever. You have a choice. Emotionally support your Cancer and talk them through whatever is happening, or walk away until they calm down. To be fair, if you can't deal with your Cancer when they're in a bad mood, you're probably not the right person to be in their life. You can't accept all that nurturing from them and never nurture them in return. Pisces makes a great pair with Cancer and you can read about their compatibility here: The Pisces and Cancer Love Match
Keeping Score
Your Cancer might not say anything right away, but they see everything, they hear everything, and most of all, they remember everything. They are acutely aware of how sensitive their feelings are, and sometimes they question whether they're overreacting. So they try to stay quiet for as long as possible. They are so busy trying to be emotionally supportive of everyone else, they're trying not to be selfish and think of themselves. God help you when that last straw hits the camel’s back, and they lose it. They will throw everything up in your face that you ever said or did wrong. You're just going to have to own up to it at that point. If you didn't do anything wrong, tell them they're full of it.
Highly Needy
Cancers might seem like they don't need anything with their high level of independence and their hard work ethic. They might seem like the most capable people in the world, but believe me, they need people just as much as people need them. They work great in a team environment whether it's something in their personal life or for their career. If they tell you they don't want to be left alone, believe them, because they don't. When you feel like your Cancer is being high maintenance with their neediness, remember the last time they dropped what they were doing and ran to your side when you needed them. It's your turn to reciprocate. Respect your Cancer, and they will appreciate it. Read about respect here: The Art of Being Respectful and Being Respected
Dishonest
Everybody has the right to their privacy, but it can feel like a double standard when Cancer knows all your business but they don't want to tell you any of theirs. They will get some type of membership at a competing organization that you belong to, get entire surgical procedures without letting everyone know, or even plan to move out of state and sell their house without letting you know. Who cares that you're their best friend or significant other? They won't necessarily outright lie to you, but they will keep things undercover that you literally have a right to know. The way to combat that is with time. The longer they're in a relationship with you, the more comfortable they'll become with being truthful.
Inflexible
If they get an idea in their head, good luck changing their mind. To be fair, Cancers aren't idiots. They have thought things through very carefully and they have arrived at but they feel is the best solution. They're no more perfect than everyone else, though, and sometimes they're wrong. In the event that your Cancer is being inflexible and they're wrong about something, sit them down and have a civil heart-to-heart discussion with them. They can listen to the voice of reason, but you better watch your tone or it will hurt their failings and they'll dig their heels in even further. Another stubborn Zodiac sign is Taurus, and you can read about their worst traits here: The Dark Side of Taurases and How to Deal with It
Manipulative
Cancers can become highly aggressive and emotionally manipulative. This is convenient for Cancers, considering the fact that they probably know everybody's deepest darkest secrets. They know how to push buttons in ways that nobody else does because they know too much. To be fair though, you're the one that told them everything, so that's on you. When you decide that you don't want someone emotionally manipulating you, set boundaries with your Cancer. If they really care about keeping you around, they will respect those boundaries.
Overthinkers
Maybe it's because they're so hard working or maybe it’s because they can be so secretive that they assume everyone else is too. Maybe it's because they're so emotional, but Cancers overthink things. They are terrible about imagining worst case scenarios that are not happening and will never happen and they will get upset as if it's already happening. If your Cancer loves and trusts you, you're in a really good position in this situation. All you have to do is sit and talk to them about what's really going on and they will feel better. If you’re a nice guy or girl, you will be more successful at this. Learn the benefits of being with a nice guy here: Why Good Guys Make You Feel Better Than Bad Boys
Irresponsible
Cancer’s work hard, and they take a lot of pride in that. They should. However, sometimes, they drop their responsibilities and don’t care. Being a Cardinal Sign means Cancers feel a big sense of responsibility for things, and sometimes they take on more than they should. They can become overwhelmed and that will make them drop the ball. Other times they get emotionally overloaded and drop things. Sometimes they get mad and they tell you to stick it. Maybe it's time to step up and help them, or just give them time to decompress. If they really care about what they're doing, they will come back and finish.
Overly Sensitive
Cancers use their high sensitivity to help them nurture other people. They take it too far sometimes, and literally invent scenarios that do not exist. They will read too much into situations, looking for underhanded intentions in people who are innocent of that. Cancers literally hurt their own feelings when they do this. To combat this, have a heart-to-heart talk and reassure them. Approach this situation lovingly, but you should always choose love no matter what the situation. Find out why here: The Case for Always Choosing Love
Verbally Attacking
When a Cancer gets upset with you, they may want to lash out and lay it on thick. They can verbally attack you, and completely lose control of themselves when they do. They should watch for this, as they do care about their loved ones. Once something is said it cannot be taken back. If a Cancer verbally attacks, stop them and say “I am so sorry you are upset and I am happy to talk to you about when you can be civil about it.” Then don’t talk to them until they can do just that. Your loving Cancer will discuss things in a better tone.
Nurturing, great leaders, and hardworking individuals, Cancers are some of the best friends and family members you could ever dream of having. They can also be extremely dishonest, manipulative, and have terrible mood swings. The great thing about the dark side of Cancer is if a Cancer really loves you, the worst traits are worth putting up with. Just bear with them while they're getting through an emotional dark patch and love them through it. You won't be sorry.
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