Relationship red flags are glaringly obvious and make smart people run from people who display them, but green flags are more important. Find out how to spot ten relationship green flags and how to say yes to them.
We have all seen them- the bright red flags that make it eternally clear someone is bad news and would break hearts in relationships. That’s convenient because it makes it easier for us to run for the hills when someone is a walking red flag. Green flags are the things we need to be looking for just as earnestly though. Join Mysticsense to find out all about relationship green flags. In our simple guide to green flags, you will learn what they are and why it’s important to watch for them. Then, learn ten of the most important green flags your new loved one needs to display before you commit to a relationship. Finally, discover simple ways to say yes to green flags. Red flags might be more noticeable, but green flags are just important. Read on to find out all about relationship green flags.
What’s a Green Flag?
Relationship green flags are positive traits and behaviors that are the signs that you can have a healthy relationship with someone. Green flags give us the go ahead to continue being involved with someone, whereas a red flag will stop us at our tracks and alert us that we need to leave a relationship. It's probably not the end of the world if you see one or two small red flags, because let's face it, none of us are perfect. However, you should definitely see more green flags than red flags.
Red flags are things like being spoken to unkindly, someone not caring about our time or feelings, or someone taking advantage of us for money. Red flags are things that alert us that someone will hurt us, waste our time, or be toxic. Green flags are the opposite. They are indications that someone is good news, worth being in a relationship with, and someone who we can trust and respect. Sometimes, we just think about whether we like someone or have fun with them. However, for relationships, we need to think about how many green flags someone displays. Have you been in a controlling relationship? Find out how you can learn to trust again afterwards here: Learn to Trust Again After Relationships
Why Look for Green Flags?
Some people just focus on looking for red flags, but you really should be looking for green flags too. Why? Looking for green flags means that you are focused on looking for what is right in the relationship instead of just what's wrong. What do you want from your relationships? Do you want someone who goes on adventures with you? Do you want someone who shares your hobbies with you? To raise a family with, or be child free with? What will not deter you from a relationship?
The number one reason to look for green flags is to make sure you find the relationships that are right for you. The whole reason we have relationships is to share our lives with the right people. There might come a time in your life when your career is on the rocks, your finances are bad, and your health isn't great. However, if you have the right people in your life, they will make it all bearable. Make sure to keep your eyes and ears open for the green flags so that you know what you're getting into. Read here to find out if someone loves you: What Are the Symbols of Love?
Ten Relationship Green Flags
Some of the most common relationship green flags are things that you probably automatically look for. Things like how someone communicates, whether they want you to be happy, and whether they have pre-existing healthy relationships are all green flags that let you know someone is good news and okay to be in a relationship with. Read on to learn ten relationship green flags and how to know that you see them.
They Communicate Well
Not everyone is good with words. However, even people who are good with words can communicate well. Listening is a big part of communicating well, and so is expressing your true feelings. Using respectful tones of voice, especially when you're upset is another big part of being a good communicator. Prioritizing making time to talk with people even when you're busy is a huge communication green flag, but not everybody knows how to do that. If someone listens, speaks nicely to you, and makes time to talk to you, it's extremely important. Just make sure they are expressing their intentions and feelings too.
They Reciprocate
Does your new love interest call you? Do they reach out first to make plans with you? Do they do things for you instead of you doing everything for them? Do they remember things that are special to you instead of just expecting you to remember everything? Do they let you pick where the two of you go together, or do they expect to pick every time? Reciprocity means that both people in the relationship share, do an equal amount of work, and matter. A green flag is when they reciprocate with you. People who don’t call aren’t reciprocating. Find out why he isn’t calling here: Why Isn’t He Calling Me?
They Want You to be Happy
What makes you happy? Whatever that is, someone in a relationship with you should be supportive of that. Whether it's white water rafting, oil painting, or playing the grand piano, you need a partner who is supportive of your happiness. That is a major green flag. The truth is, we are all individuals before we are in partnerships. Whatever made you happy before you met your potential love interest is something that belongs in your life even after you've met them. If someone can't be supportive of that, no green flag for them.
You are a Priority
If somebody really wants you in their life, you need to take top priority. That means that if it's necessary, they will cancel plans with their best friend for you. That means that maybe they won't plan anything at all until they talk to you first. That means that they don't put anything or anybody else first, not even themselves. Any relationship worth having is one worth having with someone who comes first and puts you first. One sign that makes you a priority if they love you is Virgo and you can read about them here: Virgo Traits | Star Sign in The Spotlight
They Listen
The fine art of listening is one that not everyone has mastered. It can be difficult sometimes when you're highly emotional about something to be quiet and see what someone else has to say. If somebody really wants you in their life, they will be quiet and pay attention to what you're saying. They will pay attention to your words, your nonverbal cues, and your feelings. They will do this because they love you, care about you, and they want to make sure that they give you what you need. They can't do that unless they listen.
They Share
Not everybody knows how to share. Sharing means that you give of yourself, not just your belongings. A major green flag is when somebody shares the most important thing they have with you- their time. Don't let anybody tell you that they are too busy to spend meaningful time with you. It just means that they don't think it's worth it to plan. Nobody has time. We all have to make time for what is most important to us. If they're not making time for you, that's a definite lack of a green flag. They also need to share their feelings, their hopes and dreams, and their vulnerability with you. Pisces is one sign that loves to share and you can read about their relationships with Cancers here: The Pisces and Cancer Love Match
They Accept You
We are our own biggest critics, so we don't need a partner who is a critic also. Our partners should accept us for who we are, flaws and all. A major green flag is when someone overlooks skin tags, speech impediments, minor bad habits, spider veins, anxieties, or any other imperfection that we may have. If you like to laugh loud at the most inopportune times, your partner should smile fondly and accept that that is one of your quirks. They shouldn't scold you, try to change you, or try to make you into the person they think you should be. A green flag is when somebody loves you and accepts you for who you are. Don't accept anything else.
They Can’t Get Enough of You
Some people only want you around when it is convenient for them. They want to go do their things, and when they have nothing else to do, call on you. Maybe they have a little black book with lots of lovers' names jotted down in them. Maybe they have built their life around themselves and they are too self-centered to think about someone else. Maybe it's how they treat everyone, or maybe you're the only one they treat this way. So what? It's not a green flag. Someone who can't wait to spend time with you, calls and sees you often, and looks forward to seeing you when you’re absent displays a major green flag. One sign that loves to be with people they can’t get enough of is Capricorn and you can read about them here: Capricorn Traits | Star Sign in The Spotlight
They Have Healthy Relationships
What are the relationships that this other person has like? Are they a complete loner and has zero relationships? That's not a green flag. Someone who has healthy relationships with friends and family displays a major green flag. They should have multiple long-term relationships, and should make the people who they have these relationships with a top priority. It shows that they have the potential to do the same thing for you.
They Want to Resolve Conflicts
The way somebody behaves when there is a conflict shows how much you matter to them. If they want to scream, fight, and throw a fit to get their way, that's not a green flag. All they care about is what they want instead of the relationship. Somebody who wants to discuss things, compromise, or give in when the time is right shows a major green flag, because you matter to them more than things that they want. One sign that is great at mediating conflict resolution is Gemini and you can read about them here: Gemini Traits | Star Sign in The Spotlight
How to Say Yes to Green Flags
Once you see the green flags, how can you say yes to them? First off, you have to know what you want to know just what the green flags are. Next, build trust slowly while you're trusting your instincts getting to know someone new. Then, just let love happen on its own. It has a way of doing that.
Know What You Want
What kind of things do you want in your life? What kind of things are important to you in relationships, and emotionally? Seeing the green flags for those things will let you know that it's okay to have a relationship with someone. It's important to know what those things are while you're getting to know people to begin with though. Some people focus on giving everyone a fair chance, but instead you can focus on knowing what your personal green flags are and being on the lookout for them.
Build Trust Slowly
When they are first getting to know someone, people tend to be on their best behavior. So, don't be in any rush to commit to someone. Give them opportunities over a long period of time to demonstrate that these green flags that you see are genuine. It will give both you and them the opportunity to get to know each other, good and bad traits, and decide if you want a long-term relationship. Can you trust online psychics? Find out here: How to Find a Legitimate Psychic Medium Online
Trust Your Instincts
While you are getting to know someone and paying attention for green flags, trust your inner voice. Your personal psychic intuition will alert you if someone is bad news. Too often, we feel guilty when we get a bad impression of someone without proof that they're bad to be around. You don't owe anyone a relationship, or even a chance to get one with you if you get a bad gut feeling about them. Don't let anyone tell you that you owe them a chance to be in a relationship with you. Gravitate toward people you get a good feeling about instead.
Let Love Happen
If all of the green flags check out, you get a good gut feeling about someone, they've built trust slowly with you, and they are what you want, there's nothing else left for you to do. Just let love happen. We never know why somebody walks into our lives. We're just lucky when we find a relationship that works out long-term. Find out why you should always choose love here: The Case for Always Choosing Love
Red flags are the first thing most people look for when they are considering a relationship with someone new. Those are extremely important, but it's just as important to look for green flags. Green flags are the positive traits that people have and those signal that you can have a good relationship with someone. Things like good communication, the fact that they can't stand to be away from you, and they really want to make you happy are major green flags. So, be on the lookout for those green flags, because you never know when new love will walk into your life.
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