Relationships can make or break us- and difficult ones might feel like more trouble than they are worth. Find out the point of relationships and whether they matter in our lives or not.
Friendships, community connections, family bonds, and romantic relationships can take up almost all our time. They enrich our lives, give us purpose, and make us get up and do our best when we wonder why we are bothering. They can also make us pull our hair out, wish for isolation, and wonder if they are worth it. What’s the point of relationships anyway? Join Mysticsense to find out. Learn exactly what a relationship is and the benefits and drawbacks of them. Find out what point there is to having relationships at all and then it’s time for a decision. Are relationships even worth it at all? Read on to find out.
What are Relationships?
A relationship is defined as a deep connection between two people. It can be between family members, or between friends. It can be the connections that we have with people in our community, or the connections that we have with our peers through our educational field or our career. A lot of times when people discuss relationships, they're talking about romantic relationships between significant others. When you discuss a significant other, they're supposed to be the most important person in your life and your number one relationship. Your number one person might be the person you marry. Find out how to start planning that wedding here: Be a Wedding Organizer- Plan Your Perfect Wedding
Relationships with significant others tend to create the foundation of our life. If things work out long term, you usually live together. A lot of people will have children together, and they build their own family that way. How well the relationship with your significant other goes will determine a lot of things, including home ownership. How you pool your resources will control your wealth, and it will decide a lot of what you do. Places you go, jobs you take, neighborhoods or cities that you live in, and your friend's group will be determined a lot by your significant other relationship. Your significant other will be someone who you fall deeply in love with, but how does that happen? Find out here: How Does Falling in Love Happen?
Problems with Relationships
The top problems with relationships aren't things like infidelity or communication issues. The problem with relationships is that they are pain in the neck sometimes. There are three major reasons that it can be a pain to have a relationship in general. Relationships take up a lot of time that some people don't want to give up. You have to allow yourself to be emotionally vulnerable to someone else and that can be very difficult. You have to give up things that sometimes you'd prefer to keep.
They are Time Consuming
How much time do you have to yourself after you finish working and doing all the things that you need to do? Sometimes it can seem like you don't have enough time, doesn't it? If you want to have a relationship, you're going to have to give up some of that time to somebody else. When you're tired, you may have to go somewhere with someone to keep the relationship going. You might have to call someone when you're busy and you don't feel like it. You will have to spend time doing things for people who you have relationships with that you would rather spend doing for yourself. This can cause a lot of problems for people.
You Have to be Vulnerable
Emotionally, you have to let down your guard to be in a relationship. You have to trust people with your secrets and feelings. You have to trust that people will show up when they say they will. You have to emotionally put yourself on the line and allow yourself to show that you need things from people. This can be the most humbling part of having a relationship. Admitting that you are emotionally vulnerable and then letting someone in to be vulnerable to them is not worth it to some people. Allowing vulnerability can be emotionally exhausting, but there is help for that. Find that help here: Help for Emotional Fatigue in Relationships
You Have to Give
Not only do you have to give up your time when you're in a relationship, you have to emotionally give of yourself, and you have to actually give things to people. When you are in a serious relationship with someone, you might have to give them rides, money, favors, or anything that you have to give. One of the most difficult things to give in a relationship is compromise. You can't have everything exactly your own way when you're in a relationship. You have to let other people lead, make decisions, and tell you what to do. That can be literally impossible for some people.
Benefits of Relationships
Even though there can be problems with relationships, they are not without their benefits. Relationships alleviate loneliness in ways that nothing else can. When you have relationships with people, they will help you with things that you need. None of us have nearly as much fun on our own as we do in relationships with the right people. These benefits alone are enough that a lot of people will tolerate the issues that relationships bring.
You’re Not Lonely
We all need alone time to rejuvenate and to rest. Too much alone time can be isolating and psychologically damaging. Good relationships with the right people alleviates that loneliness. Each of us needs our own amount of alone time, but most people need time with the people who they like and love. Being with the right people will make you feel more yourself and can help you to deal with any negative thing that life tends to send your way. We still need a healthy amount of independence, though. Find out how to balance independence with togetherness here: Being Independent in Your Relationships
You Have Help
Wouldn't it be wonderful if we could do everything for ourselves? We can't though, so we need people. Kind strangers will help each other often, but when you need help with a personal problem, you're going to want to lean on the people who you know and love. It is the people who we trust most, who we will allow to help us when we most need it. They can help us with what we need and not judge us while they're doing it. Part of the reason that happens is because they know that when the time comes, we will give them the help they need. Life is so much easier when you and someone who you love are truly helping each other.
You Have Fun
Is there anything more fun than having a conversation with someone who truly loves you and understands you? There's no reason why you can't enjoy some things on your own, but your closest friends are the ones who will make you laugh more than anyone else. You will have jokes that you share that nobody else understands. You will be able to completely relax around these people and focus on enjoying life instead of emotionally protecting yourself. One Zodiac sign that has the most fun with the people who they trust is Virgo and you can read about them here: Virgo Compatibility in Love and Relationships
The Point of Relationships
So we have established that there are benefits and drawbacks to every relationship that we're in. What is the point of being in a relationship at all, considering the fact that no matter what, there will be drawbacks? The number one purpose of a relationship is to share. You share everything when you have a relationship with someone. One of the things that you share is experiencing love together. Another thing that you do is help each other through life.
To Share
We can't go through everything on our own. We need someone to share our triumphs and our tragedies with. When you have a major career win, you want to share that with someone and celebrate with them. When you are struggling and heartbroken, you want someone to share your feelings with so they can make you feel better. You want to share a family with people who you love and that includes sharing many years together. You want someone to be there to share your struggles with you so that you don't feel like they're so difficult. A major point of relationships is that we share good and bad times and we have a life together.
To Experience Love
There's just something about human beings that we need someone to share love with. We need someone to give of ourselves emotionally to, and we need people to emotionally give to us. When it seems like you don't have anything in life, if you have love you will feel rich. There will be times, when your career is on the rocks, your blood relatives are being dysfunctional, and your health is terrible. If you have the love of even just one wonderful person, it will give you the strength to get through anything. Relationships bring necessary love into our lives. Find out why you should always choose love here: The Case for Always Choosing Love
To Help Each Other
Besides having someone to share with and experienced love with, relationships mean we have someone around to help us. Who is there to help you at 2:00 in the morning when you've fallen down the stairs? Someone who loves you. Who is there to help you understand how your worst habits are causing all your problems? Someone who loves you. Who is there to encourage you when you are feeling anxious? Someone who loves you. Think of any of the times in your life when you have needed help with anything. The people who loved you most were there to give you that help that you very much needed. When the time comes, you will help them also. That's love. Relationships provide that.
Are Relationships Worth It?
Considering all the problems that relationships can cause and how much time and energy we put into them, a lot of people wonder if relationships are even worth the trouble. That depends on a number of factors. Things that you can consider when you're deciding whether a particular relationship is worth it are limitless. There are three main things to consider when you're deciding if a relationship is worth it or not. Do you both want the relationship, do they contribute more than they take away from the relationship, and can you build a life together?
If You Both Want It
If both of you don't want the relationship, it's not going to be worth it. One of you might want very much to be in a relationship, but if the other one doesn't, it's not worth it to try and force things. People bring their own baggage to the relationship, and reconciling two lives to make one lifestyle together is a lot of work. If you're not both on board with working things out, it's going to be more of a struggle than it is a true relationship. If you both want the relationship, it's worth it. If you don't both want the relationship, then it's not. Sometimes, we lie and tell ourselves we want relationships we don’t. Learn how to stop self deception here: Deceiving Lies we Tell Ourselves
If They Contribute More
If someone contributes more to your life than they take from you, then it's worth it to have a relationship with them. If all they do is come when they want something and they don't make your life better, it's not worth your time. This realization can be especially difficult for people who consider themselves givers. If all you're doing is giving and the other person is doing nothing but take from you, what are you getting back from it? If all you gain is the opportunity to say that you are magnanimous enough to give, just do some volunteer work for a charitable organization. Relationships are not things that you're supposed to be giving and giving and giving and never getting anything back. So if they give more to you than you lose, it's worth it.
If You Build Life Together
Relationships are all about building a life together. If you can't do that, it's not worth it. Sometimes you fall for someone and you want to build a life together, but your lives are so different you can't change enough to suit each other. Sometimes it takes a little bit of getting used to and you make it work. If you like someone enough that you like the idea of building a life with them, give it a try. If you can work out a life together, the relationship is more than worth it. Just make sure not to lose yourself in a relationship. Learn more about that here: How to Stop Losing Yourself in a Relationship
Our relationships are some of the most defining things in our lives. The people who we are involved with personally influence us in ways that strangers or people who we don't like can't. They become the people who we spend as much time as possible with, and who we can't imagine living without. Some people value their independence so much that they don't think it's worth it to have these types of relationships with people. The point of relationships, for most people, transcends any problems that relationships could bring. Having someone to love, share with and who helps us to get through life can be more important to some people than dealing with the fear of being vulnerable to someone else. When you find the right person to share your life with, you will know it. They make it all worthwhile. That is the point of relationships.
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