Dealing with difficult people is a skill anybody can master. Learn tips to effectively redirect difficult behaviors and poor communication so you can maximize successful interactions and tame bad behavior from demanding or unpleasant people.
Oh no, look who just walked in- your least favorite person. Everybody on the team ran the other direction, and you are left to deal with one of the most demanding individuals you have ever met in your life. Not everybody is good at redirecting unpleasant people to meet goals, but guess what? You can learn how to. Join Myticsense to learn the fine art of dealing with difficult people. Find out what kinds of behaviors make people difficult to deal with and some reasons why it might happen. Learn ways around poor communication and some great tips for managing difficult behaviors, and if it’s even worth it to bother. Next time you are stuck with a difficult person nobody else wants to deal with, you can be more than qualified to manage things. Ready to learn how? Read on!
What Makes People Difficult?
Certain behaviors are associated with difficult people. We've all dealt with people who argue, don't cooperate, or are rude. We also deal with lazy, selfish, or manipulative people. Read on to find out some examples of these problem behaviors, and some simple tips for combatting them.
Arguing
When someone goes out of their way to cause conflict and be disagreeable, that's called arguing. It's okay to disagree, it's just difficult to deal with someone who is deliberately contradicting. Sometimes this is done to assert dominance, and some other people just don't know how to get along with anybody else. If someone starts arguing with you, just be quiet. Let them finish what they're saying, and then firmly state what you can do to help them.
Dissatisfaction
Dissatisfaction is difficult to deal with, but keep in mind everybody becomes dissatisfied at some point. Defective merchandise, poor service, or hold ups in social engagements can frustrate people and that's understandable. Be fair and kind when somebody is justifiably dissatisfied. If someone is chronically dissatisfied and can't be pleased, it's okay to apologize and tell them you understand they need to get help from someone else. Find out how to end your own chronic dissatisfaction here: Learning to be Satisfied When You’re Never Happy
Uncooperativeness
Some people don't like working with anyone else, and even if they do, maybe you're having a hard time getting them to work with you. Uncooperativeness holds back productivity, frustrates people, and can seem like the most unnecessary thing in the world. If someone is being uncooperative with you, sit down and ask them what it would take to get them on board with helping. They might be having some struggles or concerns and a conversation with you will make them want to cooperate immediately.
Rudeness
Rudeness can be deliberate, but it can be unintentional. Socially unacceptable behavior can be highly offensive, but different family cultures sometimes dictate different manners than what you're used to and nobody means to be rude. If it’s obvious that somebody is deliberately being rude, you can either ignore the behavior or directly address it by telling them that it is unacceptable and they have no right to treat you that way. Sometimes people don't realize that they're being rude and they're immediately embarrassed. Rudeness is considered disrespectful, but you don’t have to tolerate it. Find out why here: The Art of Being Respectful and Being Respected
Laziness
Laziness happens because people don't want to do their fair share of the work. Maybe your roommate doesn't think they should have to pick up after themselves. Maybe your kids don't want to do their chores and homework. Maybe your coworkers don't want to do their share of the work. A lot of people will pick up the slack to make sure things get done. Don't do that. Let people be held accountable for their laziness, and that will motivate them not to be lazy in the future.
Unkindness
Unkindness is considered by some to be a personality trait, and by others to be a personal choice. When someone is being unkind, sometimes you can't do anything about it. If it makes you feel better, you can always explain to the person why what they're doing or saying isn't kind and what they should be doing instead. Just be prepared that they might not care and continue being unkind anyway. Empaths are especially mindful of other people's feelings. Find out if you are one of them: How to Tell if You Are an Empath
Selfishness
Some people only think about themselves and there's nothing you can do about that. You can point out that they should be considerate and think of other people's feelings, but truly selfish people might never change. Be realistic about your expectations, and don't let it hurt your feelings if someone is selfish with you.
Short Tempered
Easily frustrated people can be easier to deal with than some other difficult people. If you alleviate whatever is frustrating them, they will calm down. If you can't, the number one thing you can do is tell them that you are so sorry they are upset and that you will do everything in your power to make them feel better. Short temperedness can start fights. Find out how the Zodiac Signs fight here: How the Zodiac Signs Fight
Manipulativeness
Manipulative people want to take advantage of other people to benefit themselves. When you realize that someone is being manipulative, if it makes you feel better, point it out to them. Be prepared that they may deny that they are being manipulative, and try to turn it around to make you look like a bad person for speaking up. Just don't let them manipulate you. It's that simple.
Closed Mindedness
You can't always combat closed mindedness. When people decide that they're right and won’t listen to evidence or reason, you can try all you want to, but sometimes it doesn't do any good. Just accept that some people are that way and move on. Taurus people can be very stubborn when they think they are right. Read about that sign here: Taurus Traits | Star Sign in the Spotlight
Why Are Some People Difficult?
So we know some of the top difficult behaviors, but why does it happen? Some people just aren't nice but sometimes they are struggling with something or they don't know that they're being difficult.
They Are Not Nice
There are some people in the world who are mean, nasty, uncaring, and self serving. You can't fix them because that's the way that they have chosen to be. Nobody knows why people choose to not be nice, but some of them do. You might have to deal with them for a short time, but remember that they have to deal with themselves for their whole lives.
They Are Struggling
Illness, stress, misunderstandings, or exhaustion can make people who are normally the most easygoing, agreeable people in the world difficult to deal with. When someone is being difficult, find out what they're struggling with, and try to be compassionate. If you are struggling, take back control of your life by claiming your own power. Find out how here: Overcome Powerlessness and Take Command of Life
They Don’t Know They Are
The best possible thing causing difficult behavior is when people genuinely don't know they're being difficult. When this happens, all you have to do is point out the difficult behavior, and the person stops immediately.
Combatting Poor Communication
Poor communication is a major cause of difficulties between people. Listen intently to what someone is saying and pay attention to what they're doing when they're being difficult. They may not understand what is going on, or they may have a very good reason for not going along with things. Find out why someone is being difficult, and if some need is not being met. Ask them specifically what you can do to meet that need or what it would take to make them happy. If you react with frustration to difficult behavior, the person who is being difficult might be even more difficult to deal with. If you react by trying to open communication, most people will be very happy to open up to you. Geminis are well known for being great communicators and you can read more about them here: Gemini Traits | Star Sign in The Spotlight
Dealing With Difficulties
So we've identified some problem behaviors, how and why problem behaviors happen, and how to combat poor communication that can cause it. How do you deal with the difficulties? First don't take anything personally and listen to what's being said. Set whatever boundaries you have to, and try to accommodate everybody involved in this situation. Finally, don't give up trying to deal with the problems when the first try doesn't work.
Take Nothing Personally
When someone is difficult to deal with, and they are dealing with you, it can feel like the most annoying and personal thing in the world. However, difficult people are just difficult, they're not doing it to give you a hard time. They would do it to anybody. So, make sure to keep that in mind when you first start dealing with them. They are not out to get you. They are just being difficult.
Listen
It's hard to listen to people when they're being difficult. However, that's the most important time to listen. There may be some hurt emotions, or the difficult person might have had a bad day and they really need your help. It's possible that the person they were dealing with before you caused a huge problem that's yours to fix and your difficult person is just frustrated. Pay attention to what's happening and what's being said, because solutions may lie in the message.
Set Boundaries
If someone is being mean, disrespectful, or just rude, it's okay to tell them that their behavior is unacceptable. “ I'm happy to help you, but I can't do anything until you stop speaking to me that way", is a very firm way to set a boundary when someone is being difficult. Explaining that you may not be able to help somebody unless they cooperate with you is another way to set a boundary. Sometimes it helps to apologize to them for the fact that they're unhappy before you set boundaries.
Try to Accommodate Everyone
Most people are very appreciative when they can tell that you're trying to help them, even if they're being difficult. Your attitude will set the tone of the entire interaction, even if somebody started it by being unbearable to deal with. You can redirect hostility, frustration, or confusion just by showing that you want to help.
Stick with it
It would be nice if you could very quickly deal with the difficult person and move on with your day, but sometimes you're not going to be that lucky. It might take a while or multiple approaches to find a solution to whatever is causing someone to be difficult. Try very hard to be patient, because chances are your difficult person won't be. You will get through this.
Is It Worth It?
A lot of times, it is worth it to work with difficult people. Not everybody has the ability to, and if you do, being the person who can will help you in your relationships and at your job. Not every difficult person is worth dealing with though. You will have to decide, based on the circumstances, whether to try to work with a difficult person or not.
When It’s Worth It
Sometimes, difficult people can be worked with, and if you can do that, the difficult person will appreciate you more than most people who are not difficult to work with. They will be loyal to you, speak highly of you, and you will benefit from a positive experience and a positive long term relationship. Not everybody labeled as difficult is impossible to work with. Some people are misunderstood, or biased against. If you take everyone’s word that someone is a problem, you can miss out on getting to know someone who is actually great to deal with. It’s always worth it to give someone a chance, even if they seem difficult.
When It’s Not Worth it
It’s not always worth your time to try and accommodate difficult people, though. If you have done all you can do to make someone happy, and they insist on being impossible to please, at some point, you will have to step away. Some people are never satisfied, or go out of their way to give everybody a hard time because they like to. People who are more interested in causing one problem after another than finding solutions to actual problems might not be worth the trouble. Even if it is someone you think you can accommodate, if the situation is causing you too much stress, it’s okay to step away and let someone else try to please a difficult person.
People who are difficult to deal with are everywhere. A lot of people want to run from them, but if you can learn to deal with difficult people, you can make situations better. Some people are difficult by being argumentative or manipulative and they're difficult because they're either just not nice people, they're struggling, or they don't know they're causing problems. Poor communication is a major cause for difficult behavior and being upfront and clarifying things are two ways to combat that. Things you can do to deal with difficult behavior is to listen, and continue to problem solve until the difficulties aren’t a problem anymore. It's not always worth it to deal with difficult people of course, but sometimes it is. Maybe you are a natural born “problem person whisperer” but even if you're not, follow our tips and you can learn to be.
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